Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs and Communications of the Dying by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley.
“The authors, Callanan and Kelley, are two hospice nurses who have taken care of and participated in the deaths of over 2,000 people at the end of their lives. For many death is a scary subject that is to be avoided. Yet, it is a journey that we all must take. Callanan and Kelley present an eye-witness account of what happens at the end of terminal illness. It is a beautiful and hopeful accounting of what people experience as told by those who are experiencing the actual events. This book is great as a comforting instruction manual on what happens, what to do, and what not to do.
It is also helpful in helping us to just be with someone whos is dying. If you retreat or are frightened because you might say or do the wrong thing, or because you are forced to face your own mortality you will find helpful an hopeful information here.
Included are signs that folks are approaching death and how not to miss them; seeing people who have already died and what that may mean; symbolic dreams and how support the dreamer in finding meaning; choosing a time to die ; waiting for a person to arrive or an event to happen.
A quote from an Amazon Reader:
‘When I first heard volunteers, nurses and others who work in hospice tell stories of people who have similar Nearing Death Experiences (not to be confused with “Near Death Experiences”), I was dubious. However, in my readings and hospice volunteer work, I find that these stories are universal, timeless and not as new age-y as I’d thought. We’ve been ignoring these wonderfully soothing stories of how people die, because for years we’ve moved birthing and dying out of the family and into hospitals. We are beginning to move them back.’
If you’ve lost a loved one, are dealing with someone who is dying (yourself or someone else), if you avoid visiting friends who are dying or if you’re struggling with your own awareness that someday you will die, please read this book. It will put your mind at ease.”